Men: A Series – Part I

Documenting the ridiculous and often tedious messages I receive from men on social media

Men: A Series has become a wildly popular series on my Facebook page, with people constantly suggesting I turn this series into a book. While I have definitely considered that, I wanted to start by posting parts of the series here on my website first. This ‘shaming’ series doesn’t exist to embarrass individual men, (but if you are one of the men who sent me these messages, and you feel ashamed…that’s ok too). I created this series to make visible how many men are ridiculous, sexist, gross weirdos to women on the internet. Each post will contain 3-4 screenshots from different men who have contacted me on various social media platforms. According to a recent Pew report, 40 percent of Internet users have personally experienced harassment. While both sexes are frequent victims of this abuse, women tend to get the worst of it. Once I started screenshotting and posting these messages and exposing the garbage-water spewed at women who try to just exist online, it was addictive.

Men: A Series is an important archival project showcasing the breadth of men’s casual, online misogyny. Yes, when you’ve been asked to swallow buckets of someone else’s bile, it feels good to puke it up – on them, if possible. And I hope this will be more than just cathartic for the women who had to put up with similar messages. Read on, have a laugh!

If you’re a man and this article makes you defensive, congratulations: you’re part of the problem. But if they make you angry, hi! We need you. Come collect your dudes.

Post 1:

Goodreads is a site for books, and for readers to keep track of reading progress. It is also, apparently, a place for men to perv on women like myself who simply want to read in f-ing peace. No one wants to kiss you, Christian. Sorry.

Post 2:

I’m not sure what Lawrence was thinking here, but real men don’t pay for the attention of women.

Post 3:

A message from a man I had never met before. I’m sure he meant it when he said he wanted to have sex with me as a person, not just a body, right? Ew. Who sends messages like this??

Post 4:

Another random message to wake up to from a random man on the internet.

Published by Jaclynn Joseph

Hawai’i born PhD student and university lecturer. Devourer of books, amateur historian, travel junkie and educator. A curious mind in search of the rational.

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